As you become a better lover with the eight types, you must remember to focus on the why factor. Why does she respond to this, and not that? When you can think on this level, you will be able to be your own coach, and guide your own progress.
In this article, I’ll explain how to bring out the “freak” in each type of woman. I organized each section under three most common goals, or desires, men have with their sexual partners. Obviously, having threesomes (or foursomes, etc) is a common desire. So is creating a power dynamic through dominance and submission, and role playing. Also, most guys want to feel worshipped, sexually, by women. So we’ll address that too.
In my experience, women are actually kinkier, and more adventurous than men. Women’s fantasies are much more extreme and varied than men’s. The problem is that men prevent women from expressing their sexuality. I’ll address the common mistakes you should avoid, which prevent women from feeling comfortable being freaky with you.
A woman’s Time Line affects her motivation. A Tester has sex because it’s fun – a new experience. An investor will be intimate because it brings her closer to her man. All women like sex for both reasons – it’s fun, and it creates a bond.
As the Time Line is the most flexible line, there is a lot of gray area and she can sway to either side depending on her recent dating experiences.
Her Relationship Line affects her sexual identity – what kind of lover she sees herself to be. A Realist sees sex as a part of a healthy relationship; she takes a functional perspective and enjoys seducing her man as she takes responsibility for the intimacy in a relationship. An Idealist sees sex as an adventure, where she is the one seduced.
A woman’s Sex Line applies to how she responds to escalation. Intimacy requires a constant evolution in the relationship – moving to higher and deeper levels of vulnerability and expression. When we talk about vulnerability, we are talking about emotional compliance – she is trusting you more and more. She has to, because she is giving her body up to your will. Justifiers and Deniers deal with this vulnerability differently, but how depends on the other two lines, in combination with the Sex Line.
Although the Playette seems like a good girl, she loves the thrill of sex. Its just that her Denier aspect makes her very cautious and defensive. As you become more intimate, you’ll need to use novelty and increasingly edgy sexual activities to keep her devoted to you. This is because as a Denier, sex is seen as substantial compliance.
The Playette takes a more passive role, as she wants to be swept away. She must feel safe in letting go, but she revels in feeling desired. So you must use your desire for her, to turn her on. It’s your desire for her that turns her on, and this is the way to take your experience to the next level – by telling her how crazy she makes you, how hard you are for her, how you must have her right now.
As a Denier, the Playette needs to feel safe first and foremost. You’ll want to escalate quickly, and then frame the escalation as her doing – she turned you on so much that you couldn’t resist her. Remember to balance this escalation with falling back on intensity and touching her in a protective, comforting way.
Playettes love threesomes. But you must be patient and bring it up the right way. Why would a Playette have a threesome? Because she’s never had one before, AND because the other girl thinks she’s fucking hot! Being desired turns this girl on, and the thought of another woman feeling that desire for her is novel and interesting. This is why she’ll have a threesome with you
A Playette likes to try all sorts of things. No activity is off limits, as long as the reason behind the activity is the right one. Try everything with her – anal, facials, spanking, and outfits – as long as you introduce it as something fun to try, because YOU feel safe with her.
When you talk about your own safety, it conveys that you value safety, and presupposes that you won’t do anything to hurt her. Telling her you feel safe with her, and that is the reason you want to do x-activity is incredibly effective with a playette.
Worship is about respect. If you can elicit respect from a Playette, she’ll see your sexuality as powerful, something to be admired. Your desire, your dick, your energy – its all powerfully exciting to her. Elicit her respect by being aggressive sexually, not hiding your true desires, and then balancing that with a respect for her personal comfort.
The SB is looking to have fun through new experiences. Her dating life is a buffet. Even more so than the Playette, anytime you can convey that you’ll give her a new, unique experience will turn her on. Teach her a special kiss, or tell her you want to find new spots she didn’t know she had.
Her Idealist nature makes her more passive, like a sex kitten. This means she will be great fun – she likes to be thrown around, grabbed, spanked, fucked in every position. Imagine she is your sex doll and go crazy – do whatever comes to mind (and remember to laugh at yourself when you commit inevitable sex bloopers happen).
As a Justifier, putting too much emotional weight on sex, or talking about sex too much at first will turn her off. Treat sex as such and obvious, inevitable outcome that it doesn’t require discussion. It’s gonna happen. It may even pay off to hang out a few times before sleeping with her.
The SB is totally open to having threesomes, as long as you keep it light. Never attach importance to the event. A great way to start is simply to start making out, or encourage her and her friends to make out, and then join in. There’s no strategizing here, but having alcohol and/or weed will definitely help.
Anything that’s different and new is exciting to the SB. If she’s young, she may be shy or unsure about what you want to do, but just keep a light and playful attitude and she’ll warm up to your idea.
A great way to establish a Dominant/submissive dynamic early on is by manhandling her in a protective way. Pick her up and set her down. Move her around wherever you are at by guiding her body gently but assertively. Grab her hair early on, first to show you like it, and then gradually to control her head and body.
The easiest way to create a psychological dynamic of devotion and worship is to a) be very physically dominant, b) never chase this girl more than she chases you, and c) make her say things congruent to worshipping you. When you fuck her, stop mid-thrust, and ask her if she likes getting fucked. Tell her to ask for more. When she walks past you looking sexy, put your hands around her throat and ask her if she likes to be held by you.
Tell her to admit she likes being spanked, choked, thrown around, etc. This will create a sense of submission in her mind, which will arouse her tremendously, as she is an Idealist.
The HR is an iNvestor, so she sees sex as a means to bond with you and become closer as a couple. So when you attempt a new activity, always verbalize that you want to do it because you care about her and want to feel close to her.
As an Idealist and iNvestor, she is extremely romantic, and needs to feel a sense of care and passion in sex. Even if you are just getting a blowjob, make sure you groan, stroke her hair, and tell her how glad you are that she is your girl.
She may take a while to warm up, because she is horny. She knows that once she lets her guard down, she will be out of control. She is very passionate.
This plays to your advantage if you can escalate aggressively, and then fractionate this escalation by backing off as soon as you feel you have crossed her threshold of comfort.
Make any threesome scenario romantic and sensual. And ALWAYS make sure you pay more attention to her than the other woman. This means you’ll have to find a third party that is OK with you being primarily committed to your woman. It should be a woman that is more attracted to your HR than to you. Your third wants the threesome, because she thinks your girl is hot. This means you should look to your female friends, and innocently ask them if they think your girl is hot. The ones that give you an enthusiastic “yes” have potential.
Remember, when it goes down, you should fuck your girl first, and spend more time on her than on the other girl.
The HR will do whatever you want her to do, as a way of keeping you devoted to her. As soon as you turn the activity into a performance or conquest (ie getting her to do something just for the heck of it), she will be turned off.
This woman is especially likely to take anal, dress up for you, or other things commonly seen as degrading or dirty, as long as you frame it as a way to become closer to her.
As I said, worship is about respect. The HR respects a man that a) is going somewhere, and b) wants her to come with him. So as long as you keep your vision evident, meaning you are making moves in your career and lifestyle, she will respect you. When you’re in the mood, walk up to her, take her little head in your hands, and kiss her. Tell her how special she is and how lucky you are to have her by your side. Take your dick out and feed it to her, as you tell her how special she is. This will make her worship you.
Cinderella gets horny when she thinks about what kind of husband and father you will be. Keep this in mind when you converse with her. Make sure you convey passion and ambition, focus and stable emotions. She will become intimate with you quickly if she senses long-term potential.
She wants to get swept off her feet, and you can achieve this affect by literally picking her up and guiding her body when you first hang out with her. Keep your hand on her lower back as you walk together. Pick her up and move her body around in a very slow, protective way.
Stay off the topic of sex, and don’t try to escalate with a direct (Appreciative or Expressive) energy. Instead, be protective. Show her she is special in a non- sexual way. Assume sex will happen. The key with Cinderella is LOGISTICS. Get her alone, and everything will fall into place, as long as you don’t get pushy or nervous.
Cinderella will be the hardest to get into a threesome because she sees every other woman as a threat. To get around this, use the third party – the other woman – as a gift to her. In other words, gradually insert the thought that a woman can give her an experience you cannot, but the fact that you want her to have that experience conveys your devotion to her.
Look closely at the frame – the spin – that I use here. I care about her so much that I don’t want her to miss out on a beautiful woman who is dying to please her in only a way that a woman can give to another woman. Again, this requires you have a female friend who thinks your girl is hot, and has some sexual confidence.
Cinderella may have a hard time being kinky at first because she is very much concerned with your perception of her. She doesn’t want to suck your dick too early because she doesn’t want you to look down on her, literally and figuratively.
You’ll have to find a moment when you can leverage her arousal to take her to the next level. Dry-hump her, as you kiss her on the lips. When you can feel that she is turned on, grab her hair with one hand, her ass with the other, and suck on one of her nipples as hard as you can, to the point of pain. Ease off when she flinches. This will help her feel comfortable with you dominating her body.
The Cinderella will worship you naturally. Your best strategy is to not get in her way by ruining respect. Never seek her approval, but occasionally ask for her input (this keeps her feeling connected to you because she is contributing to your life’s vision). Talk about your goals outside of sex, and always be in control during sex. Even if you let her get on top, make sure that you give her permission.
The PD is finicky but not in the sense that most guys think. She isn’t looking for a certain type of guy, but a man that needs her and responds only to her. In order to be turned on, she requires the perception that only she can turn you on to the point where you want to fuck. If she thinks you are out to get any woman, you’re dead in the water.
As a Realist, the PD plays a proactive role sexually. She sees it as her duty – no her identity – to arouse and satisfy her man. Take advantage of this. Keep her on her knees, wearing heels, your favorite color lipstick. Give her tasks, sexually, non-stop, so she feels like she is turning you on.
As this woman is a giver, she must protect herself so that she doesn’t give it all away to the wrong man. She knows her weakness – she is a giver. The easy way to get past this is to escalate using reverse kino, or Touchback.
Touchback means getting the woman to touch you in more intimate ways, gradually. Get the PD to rub your back, scratch your chest, kiss your stomach, stroke your dick over your pants, and then give you a blowjob. Her desire to please makes this process very smooth and easy.
Remember the key to arranging threesomes – the why. A PD will have a threesome because she is unique in her sexual appeal. Applied to involving a third person, tell her you love how she kisses, or touches, or moves, and you want to see how she would do it to a woman.
Ahead of time, you’ll want to talk to a female friend (or other girlfriend) and make sure she thinks your girl is hot. Get them both at your place, have a few drinks, and encourage your PD to show off her kissing skills to the other girl. Involve yourself in the kissing contest, and go from there, paying most attention to your girl.
The PD will do anything to keep you turned on, as long as she feels like she has some control in the activity. Giving her a facial won’t be as big a turn on as her giving it to herself – have her jerk you off onto her face. If you want to give her anal, have her buy some lube that she likes. Always give her a sense of control and she’ll do whatever you want.
More than any other type, this girl wants to role-play. Role-playing is something you’ll see more with Realists – maybe it’s a way of escaping their rigid reality, or maybe it’s like taking on another job that she knows must be done to keep a man from wandering to greener pastures.
With the PD, worship is the wrong word. Instead, give her a sense of control. When she touches your body, especially your dick, always respond, and convey that she is in control of your sensations. Show her that you can’t control yourself when she strokes the tip of your dick, or when she sucks on your neck. She will begin to love your body because it gives her the feeling that she, uniquely, can affect you.
The Seductress enjoys men. She eats them up in fact. You are food. This is a good thing, as long as you are feeding her your dick rather than your emotions. She’ll take either, but only one will keep her interested.
The Seductress is likely older, or very sexually experienced, and thinks about her own pleasure first. This means she’ll treat you in a more functional way. You are a means for her to satisfy her own needs. Give yourself up to this, offering a little challenge so she doesn’t get bored.
Never be the sexual aggressor. Let her do that. All you have to do is show up, and if she’s not in the mood, be patient, and remind her of your physical nature in subtle ways. Brush your body against her as you cross paths. Adjust your dick, casually as you sit in front of her. Smell her hair when she is close to you, but don’t say anything. Subtly remind her that you are a man, with a man’s body.
There are two great ways to get into a threesome with the Seductress. First, talk about how hot it would be to see her take advantage of a pretty, young, innocent girl. Have a female friend who fits this description, and introduce the two of them at a casual get-together.
The most effective method with this woman, however, is to ask her if she’d like to order you to fuck another woman. This is a huge turn-on – to sexually control two other people, first the man, and through the man, the other woman. In a sense, she is using your penis to fuck another woman, asserting dominance and expressing her sexual prowess. Show that you are open to this dynamic and she will likely set up a threesome on her own (she definitely has the roster to do so).
Kink and worship
The Seductress doesn’t have many hang-ups. But she prefers to initiate most of the time. I combined kink and worship into one category here because with a Seductress these are one and the same, only worship is best articulated as control, like the PD. You must adopt the role of boy-toy, even if you are older. Give her the chance to lick, bite, stroke, suck, and ride you.
Convey through words and actions that your dick belongs to her, responds to her only. Let her undress you more than you undress her. Fight the temptation, except on sparse occasions. As long as your sexual aggressions are infrequent she will value them and be turned on by them. Typically, the Seductress will want to role-play a scenario. Never discourage this. You will shut her down and make her bored.
The Connoisseur is looking for a guy who will be around for the long haul. Because of this, she is only going to allow herself to get turned on when she senses that you and she have real chemistry (she’s a Denier as well). The name “Connoisseur” may give the wrong impression. She is not screening to see if you meet her standards. She is screening to see if you are screening. Show that you are a special guy by actually getting to know her.
She has no misgivings about relationships. She knows that a true bond is hard to find. Don’t game her. When it comes to sex, show her how you feel with your hands, mouth, and dick. Give it to her, devour her, use her body until you are totally satisfied. This is the standard you must pass to earn the respect and thus arousal of the Connoisseur.
She will put up some resistance early on. You must use verbal qualification to show that you are a guy with standards, which is her standard. Talk about her sexuality in non-itemized, physical terms. Tell her you love her energy, how she feels in your arms, how she walks, how she laughs and smells. The Denier actually gets turned on easily, so saying these simple things will arouse her, making her more receptive to your advances.
A Connoisseur will have a threesome because she wants to keep up with you. If you convey that you have had threesomes before, and that you know what you are doing, she will follow your lead. Lie if you have to, at first, to pass this first hurdle. Have an experienced woman in mind as a third party. Don’t ever talk about a threesome in advance. Always arrange logistics so that it appears to “just happen.”
The Connoisseur will have specific fetishes. She may like men with hairy chests, a certain style or height, or even dick size. If she gives you a play, trust that you are what she likes, and relax with her. The reason why she looks for a certain type is, ironically, because she is looking for chemistry, and she feels like she has the best chance of finding that with a specific type.
But the key to chemistry is being able to relax together. Use relaxation as your intention sexually. Go down on her, and have her do the same to you, for starters, to help each other relax. Use massage, gradually taking control of her body through competence – learn all her spots and how she likes to be touched.
This woman will respect you if she senses that you a) have standards with the women you sleep with, and b) have standards for life in general. You don’t have to be rich to convey this. Keep your place clean, and have rules, like no wearing shoes in your place, and people must wash their dishes and cups after use.
It seems tangential, but this is the best way to earn her respect, which is fundamental to her admiring and respecting you. This, in turn, results in more blowjobs for you. Hard to understand as a man, but we’re not talking about the male mind here.
The MW is looking for a relationship, ultimately. But for now she is enjoying her life as a single woman. Even if she has a man, she is open to trying out new men. More than other types, the MW is closest to the middle in terms of Tester vs. iNvestor, but we classify her as an iNvestor as that is her primary motivator – to invest in a man and form a strong bond. Although she enjoys the pleasure and thrill, the bond is why she has sex.
The MW isn’t jaded but does try to adapt her emotional responses to the times. She realizes that men like to play the field, and you can’t force relationships.
She also understands that the way to a man’s heart is by showing him that you, as a woman, add to his life, rather than taking up his time and attention.
The MW likes to please her man. Give her the opportunity to do so, and guide her on what you like. Teach her how you like you blowjobs and learn exactly where and how she likes to be licked and kissed.
Again, the MW is closer to the middle when it comes to Denier or Justifier. Being sexual in the conversation is not bad, but don’t overdo it. A good rule of thumb is to always leave the possibility that you won’t sleep with her. But don’t shy from talking about what turns you on sexually.
The MW probably sees a threesome as a standard rite of passage before marriage, so there will be a natural inclination. The standard route for setting up a threesome is to find a third party target your MW thinks is hot, who thinks your MW is hot also. This can be done over the course of a night, in less than 15 minutes once you get the hang of it. It’s even easier in a strip club.
The key is to convey that you are most interested in your girl, because she is an N and an R. Add to this the attitude that it’s no big deal (Justifier). Use kissing, or the girls showing off their best body parts (compare tits, asses, or my favorite – find three “spots” on each girl) to get the group interacting on a physical level.
The MW loves to be dominated but also likes being in control, on occasion. Use protective touch initially, as she doesn’t respond to direct sexuality at first. Once she feels safe giving you control of her body, manhandle her. Grab her hair, squeeze her hips and butt, and hold her by the wrists. Bite her just enough to hurt, and then ease up.
Gradually take over, to the point where she automatically falls and submits when you push against her. At this point, begin telling her what to wear for you before you visit her, and try different role-plays to keep things exciting.
If you respect yourself and enjoy yourself fully with this woman, she will see you as a sexual powerhouse. This is another type that needs no shaping. She loves men and likes to see you wield your manhood with pride. She wants you to be The Man!